The Top 10 Tips for Soothing An Unhappy Toddler in the Middle of the Night

Or, how to cope when your toddler is suddenly awake and crying or unwilling to go back to sleep late at night.
1. Gently turn on the lights and don't look at the clock!

Give both of you time to adjust to the light and don't tell yourself or your toddler that you "should" be sleeping. This is highly frustrating and annoying for everyone!

2. Look into your toddler's eyes and quickly scan the scene for obvious signs of a problem.

Diaper change? Is this a medical emergency or not? If yes, call "911". If no, continue reading.

3. Speak in positive, loving and reassuring tones.

I find that repeatedly saying "All is well", or "Everything is OK" seems to help. This helps remind me that it is so even if I still don't know why my toddler is screaming, crying, or generally unhappy about something.

4. Pick up your toddler.

Put your toddler in a baby carrier/sling if you use one.

5. Follow your toddler's lead.

Move in the direction of their pointing finger. They often have an agenda. You get to figure out what it is!

6. Offer a midnight snack of strawberries or other natural treats.

Maybe your toddler, like you, are hungry or thirsty?

7. Sit with your toddler at your computer or keyboard and play.

Do a special activity that might get their attention (distract, distract, distract!).

8. Sing or play soothing songs.

Our toddler responds to certain Native American tunes. She used to really respond to the Baby Einstein music and videos.

9. Bundle up and Go outside to howl at the moon and walk around your property.

This has worked famously since infancy. The air has a great calming quality. The quiet of being outside makes it a magical moment.

10. Go back to bed and nurse/cuddle together.

You both will eventually get back to sleep. Remember, it's times like these that bring you and your toddler closer together. Make it count!

About the Author

Verena Aibel is a prolific writer of Top Ten Articles and other pieces, and is a Top Ten Coach & Consultant, Renaissance Coach, Global Biz Woman, Public Speaker, Workshop & Teleclass Leader, and a first-time mom at the age of 44. She can be emailed at Verena@optonline.net, visited on the web at www.renaissance-coach.com, or contacted at 201-487-6910 (US-Eastern Standard Time). Verena wants you to know: I have written over 30 Top Tens and I have had over 20 of these published online. One of the things I do as a coach is to help other people write and submit a Top Ten so that they can begin to gain global recognition and to market themselves with confidence and finesse. For those of you who would like to make an appointment to help write your Top Ten or for coaching, email or call me, we'll create! To obtain written permission to use or quote from this article, please email Verena Aibel. A Word document of this article is available upon request.

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